She was a beautiful, young Irish maid, working in a wealthy English household. Her employer’s oldest son fell in love with her. When he announced intentions to marry her, his parents said they would disown him. He married her anyway. Then, bride and groom ran away to live happily ever after. “Her name was Mary Cordial,” my maternal grandmother Marilyn Matilda Dietz told me, that distinct glimmer of pleasure in her eyes—the one she always had when she retold this story. “And you are her legacy.”

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Tuesday, November 27, 2012

A Tribute to Aunt Jeanne

Grand Aunt Jeanne and me on May 27th, 2012

The beautiful lady sitting to my right in the photo above is my grandaunt, Jeanne Dietz Garrity. She was born in 1928, the oldest of three girls, and was my late grandmother Marilyn Dietz's older sister. An invaluable and enthusiastic source of family history, Aunt Jeanne (as I called her) not only provided names and dates for my great and my great-great grandparents; she elaborated on their lives in ways that brought them to life for me long after their passing.

Earlier this month, Aunt Jeanne went to join them, her two sisters, and her beloved husband, after 84 years of life.

She died on a Saturday. My husband and I had just taken advantage of Long Island Restaurant Week by having a spectacular three-course meal in Sayville. When we returned to the house, my mother met us in the kitchen with a sad face. "Is everything okay?" I asked.

"No," she said. And then she told me.

I feel fortunate to have called and spoken with Aunt Jeanne a few weeks prior. She'd sent me some family documents including her parents' marriage certificate, and upon review I'd noticed that my great grandparents had married in Hoboken, New Jersey. Why, I asked, had they married so far away from their family homes in Brooklyn?

"Oh, they eloped!" she said. Apparently, they'd just found out that Jeanne was on her way.

When I first told her what I'd found out about Mary Cordial, the great-great-great grandmother who'd sparked my genealogy habit, she was stunned. "I'm Irish?" she asked. She'd lived over 80 years without ever hearing this. "I had no idea Grandma Dietz was Irish. She always cooked German food!"

When Aunt Jeanne spoke, there was something in the way she enunciated her words that reminded me of my grandmother's voice. It wasn't an accent so much as an intonation, accompanied by the occasional soft, whistling s. Her tone was calm, gentle. I felt a lot of comfort while listening to her.

I'm so glad I was able to go to the family reunion that my first-cousin-once-removed, also named Jeanne, planned last May. Sitting in the screened-in porch with Aunt Jeanne, I was treated to numerous stories from her youth. The 1940 Census had only just been released the previous month and hadn't yet been indexed, but a researcher who knew the sought-after-family's actual street address might be in luck. "Where did you live in 1940?" I asked, in between tales. "With Grandpa Ernest," she replied, and she gave me the address. I found the family two days later, of course, right where she said they'd be.

That day, she told me how happy she was that I was interested in learning about our family. "I love hearing your stories," I replied. "Anything you want to tell me, please do." She leaned forward in her chair then, grinning. "I love you," she announced. And we laughed.

Marilyn and Jeanne Dietz, 1931, Bear Mountain

As children, Jeanne and Marilyn would walk with Ernest Ewald, their grandfather, to the Lutheran All Faiths Cemetery to plant flowers at the grave of his wife/their grandmother, Lizzie Burger. He survived her by fourteen years, and he felt the sting of her loss every day until he joined her. "Oh, my Lizzie," he would sometimes say aloud, when missing her became too much to bear.

On Sundays, Jeanne and Marilyn went to the Presbyterian church for services in accordance with the wishes of their mother, Ruth. Walking home, they would pass their paternal grandparents' house. One Sunday, their paternal grandmother Jane Bullock Dietz came running out to ask where they'd been. When they told her, she insisted they come with her right away to Catholic mass, because their father Joseph was Catholic and that was where they should be going. Of course, they went right along with her.

Jeanne also remembered being dropped off for babysitting at her Dietz grandparents' house one holiday season. Their Christmas tree was decorated and set up in a special stand that had been handmade by Louis Martin Dietz, the girls' grandfather. Having collected a number of wooden cigar boxes, Louis had repurposed them as components of a dollhouse with tiny hinged doors and shutters on the windows. Jeanne remembered crawling around on her hands and knees under the Christmas tree with Marilyn beside her, opening those little doors and windows, gleefully looking inside to see what might be within.

Jeanne and Marilyn Dietz, early 1940s, Queens, NY

She told me that one day when she and my grandmother were walking to school, a fellow student stopped and offered them a ride in his little blue convertible. He was sixteen and handsome, and although Marilyn didn't want to get in, Jeanne (then fourteen) insisted that they should. After they reached school, Jeanne hoped she might see Gilmore Garrity again later but decided she'd "never be that lucky." When dismissal time came, she went out the front door to find him there, waiting to drive her home.

Later, when Gil was in the service, she went to his base to visit with him. While she made her way up the walkway toward the building where they were supposed to meet, she heard a sudden commotion--men shouting, angry--so she slowed down. Gil came flying out of the front doors then, pushing aside anyone in his way, and ran straight for her. He'd seen her coming and, unable to wait any longer to throw his arms around her, had plowed through the crowd without heed.

She married him in 1946, and, like her Grandpa Ernest, survived him by fourteen years.

When Aunt Jeanne and I last spoke on the phone, she was recovering after a recent hospital stay. She told me how nice everyone there had been, and how thrilled she was with the 54 Get Well cards* she'd received. She was weak, but determined. She noted, darkly, that she was the only one left of her generation, and spoke about how much she missed her parents, sisters and husband. Reminded of her children, grandchildren and great-grandchildren (seventeen of those, if my memory serves), she became cheerful again. She told me she loved me again, and that she needed to go and take a rest. I told her that I loved her, too.

I am grateful to have known her, and I will miss her. Always.

* Her daughter Jeanne told me today that the grand total was 84 Get Well cards, which I think is just perfect.

Monday, November 5, 2012

A Discovery of "Witches"... and a Society to Honor Them

ADEAW's Logo

When a family researcher shakes their family tree, sometimes unexpected ancestors tumble out. That's what happened to me in July 2009, when I searched "Rebecca Elsing Mudge" on Google and was confronted with a screen full of links to witchcraft books and articles.

I read the first one and then, stunned, paced around my home with a hand clapped over my mouth for over five minutes, reeling. My 11th great grandmother Rebecca Elsing, who'd remarried a man named Nathaniel Greensmith after Jarvis Mudge's death, was not only accused of witchcraft; she was tried, convicted and executed for the crime in Hartford, Connecticut, in January of 1662/3 after having made a remarkable confession including having had intimate dealings with the devil himself. Mudge Memorials, the book that catalogues the lineage of the descendants of Jarvis Mudge, said nothing about what had become of Jarvis's only known wife and mother of his two sons, Moses and Micah. Now I knew why.

But then there's that saying about life giving you lemons. I'd done a considerable amount of prior research at, where I'd found a list of various genealogical societies one might join. The one that really caught my eye that fateful day was The Associated Daughters of Early American Witches (ADEAW), a genealogical society for females aged 16+ years who can trace their lineage back to a woman or man who was accused, tried, convicted and/or executed in the American colonies prior to 31 Dec 1699. Now that would be a cool society to join, I'd thought.

There's no need to ask you to guess what I did next.

Membership in the society is by invitation only, which was problematic; I didn't know a single member who might nominate me. So, I took a chance and emailed the society. Thankfully, then Registrar General Dr. Kim Nagy instructed me about how to go about procuring an invitation from the President General Shari Kelley Worrell. A few emails later, I had an application in hand and was ready to apply. I became a member of ADEAW in April 2009. Since then, I've been honored with an appointment as Editor of The Black Swan, the society's national newsletter. I feel blessed to have found such a wonderful group of ladies who share this unique American heritage.

Founded in 1987 by Mrs. Caroline Engle, ADEAW is a small but growing society with a current membership of just under 500 members. The society meets once a year in Washington DC during mid-April. There, the ladies have the opportunity to get acquainted, hear a speaker discuss topics near and dear to their hearts, and honor their ancestors with a lovely closing memorial ceremony.

Are you a woman who has a "witch" in your family tree? If you have New England roots, you just might. Take a look at ADEAW's Approved Ancestors list. If you think you've found one, ADEAW might be the genealogical society for you!